To say that this week has been hard would be a bit of an understatement. To say that this week has been horrible would be a bit of an exaggeration. We're struggling along somewhere in the middle.
Paul and Nicole gently informed us on Tuesday evening that their wedding, scheduled for June 28, would not be happening. As a parent, you feel you have the right to know exactly why you have to change the course of a roaring freight train, but you also recognize your child's right to privacy, especially during a time like this. So we're not asking too many questions (I hope!!), and we're definitely not telling the whole world the details of a very private decision.
However, it was a struggle for me to flush hundreds and hundreds of dollars down the drain as we cancelled flights, hotels, tuxedo rentals, and restaurant reservations. We printed little cards (see Wordless Wednesday), bought 500 envelopes, and a butt load of stamps to let everyone know of the change of plans. We made difficult phone calls to family who are getting ready to travel to inform them that their trips were no longer necessary (but that we would really love the visit if they still wanted to come)!
I am positive that Nicole's family were also anxiously engaged in similar activities this week.
You want to be positive and supportive with your child, and with his sweet fiancee, when they have to deal with this kind of decision. You also want to demand answers. It's a fine line to walk, let me tell you! You also want to cry really, really hard, and in fact, you do so, after you are finished talking to the unhappy couple. You may even throw up.
The learning curve is extremely steep in this kind of situation. You have to move fast, but you don't want to overlook anything, and you have a million bases to cover. I am still trying to decide what kind of counsel to give concerning the wedding and shower gifts they have already received.
I woke up yesterday morning with a headache the likes of which I have rarely experienced, and that's saying something, since I consider myself something of an expert in the "constant headache" department. Physical pain is probably something to be expected when the stress levels go this high, which is too bad, because it doesn't really help.
The outpouring of love and concern from friends and family, however, really does help. And to those of you who have called, texted, commented, and visited with hugs and tears, I would just like to say thank you. A very deep and heartfelt thank you. We appreciate your concern. We really, really do.
So, we wait. We wait for another gentle announcement from our boy and his girl. I don't have a clue as to what kind of time line we are looking at. Whatever it is, I hope they can figure things out and that they can be happy. I just hope they know that I love them.
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